Post by powerof0ne on Aug 11, 2014 0:23:45 GMT -5
I've had the pleasure/mispleasure of training and getting to know a couple of good instructors on a personal level and understand their strategies of having loyal students. Both of these instructors have legit knowledge and skills with proven results. However, where I disagree with them is how they get loyal students and both seem to teach because they want to be worshiped to some degree.
One of them uses a tactic that I have seen others in his organization use and it seems to work rather well on far too many students. What they do is boost a student's ego, building up confidence with highly exaggerated claims of that student's abilities. They make that student feel as if they're already a black belt and could be a world champion if they wanted, etc.
Now boosting a student's confidence is great but when you're making that student feel as if they're the next Francisco Filho, Peter Aerts, Buakaw, Anderson Silva, Mike Tyson, etc. and that student has never actually had a fight...that's wrong. Some of the ways they do this is by hanging out with the student(s) outside of class...which can be okay but when you're getting drunk with them, partying, trying to get them to hook up with female students like the school is a hook up joint (this happened to my brother and I, instructor was trying to get us to be like him and try to hook up with almost every female at the school), etc. it blurs lines of instructor and friendship.
Typically, an instructor like this and the two I have a lot of experience with want you to call them their martial art title outside the martial art school. They want to tell the same stories over and over explaining why they're so great and all the great things they have done.
A lot of my experiences are really hard to go into depth and properly explain but there are definitely more than a few instructors that encourage cult like followings. I suppose one good feature about me is I can learn from mistakes that I have seen others in my life make so I don't make the same mistakes. It's sad to me how many still fall victim for this crap and don't even realize it. I've talked to people on here, facebook, etc. that don't realize what's happening to them.
These types of instructors aren't always in it for the money neither. The cult types are in it to have students that worship them. Some of them demand lots of $ while others just want to be worshiped and have their students thinking they are the subject matter experts on everything.
Osu!
One of them uses a tactic that I have seen others in his organization use and it seems to work rather well on far too many students. What they do is boost a student's ego, building up confidence with highly exaggerated claims of that student's abilities. They make that student feel as if they're already a black belt and could be a world champion if they wanted, etc.
Now boosting a student's confidence is great but when you're making that student feel as if they're the next Francisco Filho, Peter Aerts, Buakaw, Anderson Silva, Mike Tyson, etc. and that student has never actually had a fight...that's wrong. Some of the ways they do this is by hanging out with the student(s) outside of class...which can be okay but when you're getting drunk with them, partying, trying to get them to hook up with female students like the school is a hook up joint (this happened to my brother and I, instructor was trying to get us to be like him and try to hook up with almost every female at the school), etc. it blurs lines of instructor and friendship.
Typically, an instructor like this and the two I have a lot of experience with want you to call them their martial art title outside the martial art school. They want to tell the same stories over and over explaining why they're so great and all the great things they have done.
A lot of my experiences are really hard to go into depth and properly explain but there are definitely more than a few instructors that encourage cult like followings. I suppose one good feature about me is I can learn from mistakes that I have seen others in my life make so I don't make the same mistakes. It's sad to me how many still fall victim for this crap and don't even realize it. I've talked to people on here, facebook, etc. that don't realize what's happening to them.
These types of instructors aren't always in it for the money neither. The cult types are in it to have students that worship them. Some of them demand lots of $ while others just want to be worshiped and have their students thinking they are the subject matter experts on everything.
Osu!